But first, heal ourselves...

My advice to those who wanted to start a family is to heal first your emotional and psychological trauma of the past. 

Those who have experienced verbal and physical abuse from parents, have that deep, unaccepted, hidden trauma that if we do not acknowledge and seek help from the expert, will affect the way we raise our kids.

Too much love can kill. It kills true love, it kills trust, it kills free will. Our children are not our dumping ground of our trauma. History will just repeat itself, again and again if do not address our issues with ourselves. 

We should heal ourselves first, learn to love ourselves and then that's the time where I believe that we can truly love our children. It's when we are able to give an unconditional love to them. 

I pray Lord, that you heal our hearts from the wounds of the past. The offending words, physical pain, distrust, unable to love ourselves...heal us from these so that we can truly and unconditionally share our heart to our love ones.